Death is a taboo topic. Many Westerners simply do not talk about death because they are scared. Living with someone who is going to die anytime soon can be tough, especially if it is your relative or a life partner.
If it is hard for you, then imagine what is going on in the minds of people who are close to dying. Even though they might try to hide it, their fear of death will inevitably show. Here are some ways you can help make their last days on Earth a little more bearable.
Say what you want to say
Do not save your “I love you” and “Thank you” for later. Say them to your dying loved ones every opportunity you have. Express your feeling freely and let them know that they are loved and appreciated. Let them know that they have a lasting significance to you.
Ask for forgiveness. Apologize for things you might have or might not have done in the past that could’ve hurt them. If you have bad memories with your loved one, forgive them and let them know that you have forgiven them. This will help them be at peace and at the same time, liberate you from the weight of carrying frustration and hate.
Do not wait until the last moments to say goodbye. It is better to say what you want to say your dying loved ones when they can still hear it, not when they are dead. Let your dying loved one know that they will always be important to you. Tell them what needs to be said and remind them how much they mean to you and how much you will miss them. If you are going far away and might not see them again, let them know that you will always remember them. Say your goodbye in a satisfying way so you do not regret anything after that person is gone.
Take care of them until the end
One way of showing your love and appreciation for a dying loved one is by taking care of them until the moment of their passing. People under palliative care can become moody and shun everyone. Be patient with them and understand what they are going through.
Let them know that you will be with them until the end. Be open to them. Talk to them and let them share what they are feeling. Open conversations where they can talk about their illness, life regrets, and whatnots. Ask them how you can help them better, and if there is anything they need the most from you. This will give you the opportunity to know how they are truly feeling.
Make more memories
Create more memories with your dying loved ones. Get together with family members more. Invite some of their friends to come over. Fulfill as many of their wishes as you can. Make them happy in their remaining days. This will not only help them enjoy their remaining days, but it will also help them transition peacefully knowing that they have done what they wanted to do and have lived fulfilled lives.
Death is a natural part of life. People facing death can be scared or full of regrets, but if you have shown them love and appreciation, they will have the courage to accept their fate and leave the world peacefully.